The doorbell rings, and I know before I answer it who will be standing on our misnamed welcome mat. It will be the intruder. A threat to my family. A domestic terrorist. An eight-year-old child.
Sure enough, it’s the girl from the next street asking if my granddaughter is over. The little shit seems to have a sixth sense about Ellie’s visits. What I hate admitting to myself or anybody else is that I fear this child. The house she lives in screams of too much activity and not enough care. Too many people come and go. The little girl’s older brother walks down our street in shorts and without shoes to catch the school bus in the middle of an Ohio winter. He’s either deranged or his parents don’t give a damn. Seven years ago I would have worried about the boy getting sick, wondering if he was receiving the love and care he deserved, agonizing over what misery drove him barefoot and broken into a February morning. But that was seven years ago. In certain important ways, I’m much less of a person now.
I hear the knock again. My wife answers the door. She tells the child that Ellie would love to come out and play. Her greeting sounds annoyingly cheerful and welcoming. Ellie, six years old next month, seems to like the little girl, but Ellie likes everybody. My wife accompanies Ellie outside, but I stay in the house. I don’t like sharing my granddaughters with anybody, but my anxiety about this girl goes deeper than that.
I look out the window and watch Ellie and the little girl at the door run around in front of our house. All I hear is what one would expect to hear: little girls laughing, their sharp, small exchanges piercing a placid summer evening, their shrill voices like tiny tears in a leaf.
I imagine the little girl and Ellie walking around the neighborhood in a few years, acting bored, smoking cigarettes, being pursued by boys I know all too well, romantic young boys lured by the hum of dusk, boys bruised by a world they don’t understand, boys eager to bruise back.
I was far more empathetic right before and immediately after my granddaughters were born. For their first couple of years on earth I even entertained delusions of becoming a better human being. I was moved anew by the world and its wonders, at times joyful to the point of idiocy. But then something changed. I woke up one morning realizing that I could no longer afford not to judge people, especially people like the family of the little girl out in the yard with my granddaughter. A family, I should add, I do not know and have never met. The house is unkempt and neglected. The whole place reminds me more than a little of where I grew up. Small ranch houses filled with factory workers and their families. Houses and lawns unseen to by parents who worked fourteen-hour days to feed the children the Catholic Church encouraged them to rhythmically deliver into the world.
I continue watching two little girls run around our front yard. I want nothing more in life at this moment than for this child to leave our home. I don’t want her to return, not ever. I don’t want to care for her. I don’t want to worry about her. I don’t want to wake up in the middle of the night considering what I may owe her. I don’t want to be the sensitive progressive I believe myself to be. We can’t save everybody.
Not a word of this comes out of my mouth. I don’t want to witness my wife’s knees buckle in shame. I don’t want her to look at me with eyes that wonder who the hell it is she’s been married to all these years. I turn from her gaze, holding tight my anger and fear, but mostly my shame, watching my granddaughter and the little girl at the door run smiling through dappled grass.
As she’s leaving, the little girl picks up her bike and skillfully spins it, aiming her front tire toward the street. I’m awed by the artfulness of her move. She tosses her head back, smiles, waves, pedals away. I watch her through my reflection in the window, and I see us both clearly—someone to love, someone to fear.
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Joe Mackall is the author of Plain Secrets: An Outsider Among the Amish, and The Last Street Before Cleveland. Co-founder of River Teeth: A Journal of Nonfiction Narrative, his work has appeared in The New York Times, The Washington Post and on NPR’s “Morning Edition.” He teaches at Ashland University.
19 comments
Cindie Ulreich says:
Sep 11, 2015
I needed this today. Thanks Joe!
Claudia Geagan says:
Sep 11, 2015
Wonderful story Joe. I remember you talking to me and Leslie Tucker about your grand-girls at dinner at the conference a few years back. I’m thrilled to say that the River Teeth Beautiful Things blog is going (or so Sarah said) to publish one of my short pieces. I am excited. Nice to see you in Brevity. I read Plain Secrets and liked it.
Tim Hillegonds says:
Sep 12, 2015
That was a hell of an ending image. (The rest was great, too.) Well done. Lots to learn from this one.
Jan Shoemaker says:
Sep 13, 2015
I’ve been waiting for this essay, Joe. It’s beauty takes away a bit of the September, back-to-school sting. Think you could give us a little booster-shot every September?
Kenny A. Chaffin says:
Sep 15, 2015
Well done. I can definitely identify with it.
Nicole Breit says:
Sep 17, 2015
Wow. I’ve felt this way about kids who want to play with my kids. Nice work!
Janie Emaus says:
Sep 28, 2015
I stumbled upon this site. And I’m glad I did! Great story.
JD Duff says:
Sep 29, 2015
So honest. So true. Beautifully written. Well done.
Deborah Fleming says:
Sep 29, 2015
Good, tightly written, gripping.
Debbie Hagan says:
Oct 1, 2015
So beautiful and so honest. I can completely relate.
michelle says:
Oct 11, 2015
This is gorgeous.
Steve Rosse says:
Oct 17, 2015
Nicely done. Thanks.
Dani Fleischer says:
Dec 9, 2015
So beautiful. Reading it has made it a good day for me. Thank you.
Cynthia says:
Jan 12, 2016
Loved this story.
Cherye says:
Jan 24, 2016
The fine wire we walk trying to protect our children, and teaching them about loving their fellow man. Great writing.
Stephe says:
Feb 4, 2016
Thank you I loved his story and its just what I needed
jeannie says:
Mar 7, 2016
Such an insight and a revealing peace of our mixed up and confused human consciousness. Well done and very moving. Thank you for the story. I have many people around me that exhibit this fear of openness and reckless joy. Live and love and look in the mirror.
Charlie says:
Apr 7, 2017
Amazing! Made my day. They should add aging to these tags.
abigail thomas says:
Sep 20, 2017
honesty that shines a light we all need. wow.