You Are a Child, a Coward, and a Fraud
After you left, I wrote an essay called “You Are a Child, a Coward, and a Fraud.” The essay had three paragraphs: one about your childishness, one about your cowardice, and one about your fraudulence. It seemed self-serving, so I added a section about how I, too, am a child, a coward, and a fraud, a paragraph for each. I am nothing if not fair. But you are, and will always be, a child, a coward, and a fraud.
I Am a Child, a Coward, and a Fraud
I wrote an essay about an essay called “You Are a Child, a Coward, and a Fraud.” The essay wasn’t technically an essay, in that it wasn’t nonfiction: I never wrote an essay called “You Are a Child, a Coward, and a Fraud.” However, I took notes about writing that essay, and I planned to write that essay. I truly believed, and still believe, you are a child, a coward, and a fraud. But I didn’t so much want to write the essay as to tell you what I think of you. I also didn’t want to tell you what I think of you. You had already caused me great pain, and I didn’t want to invite more. However, writing the essay would have also dredged up the pain of your childishness, cowardice, and fraudulence.
One day, I realized I needn’t write an essay nor speak to you to express my belief that you are a child, a coward, and a fraud. I could instead write a tiny fictional essay about writing an essay called “You Are a Child, a Coward, and a Fraud.” I sat down and wrote it. I drove to therapy, reciting the essay. Reciting it kept me from thinking about the pain of your childishness, cowardice, and fraudulence while expressing my belief in your childishness, cowardice, and fraudulence. I couldn’t wait to tell my therapist about my cleverness. At her office, after I recited the essay, she said, “That’s wonderful!” and psychoanalyzed it in my favor.
I left therapy with a plan to send off my wonderful essay. However, imagining sending it off stirred up insecurities. Who would actually publish this “essay”? Who would not see it for the lashing out it was and the work of art it wasn’t? As I drove home, I again recited the essay, to convince myself of its worth, but the more I recited it, the less convinced of its worth I became. I switched up phrases, eliminated words, then unswitched phrases and returned the words. I came down firmly in favor of one version, then firmly in favor of another. By the time I got home, I determined my tiny fictional essay of which I’d been so proud was poison. I would not publish it, or submit it, or think about it. I would put it away and let it die.
Because really, the fuss about how best to convey your childishness, cowardice, and fraudulence only served to obscure this disturbing fact: I had also often experienced your maturity, bravery, and honesty. Indeed, it was my love of your maturity, bravery, and honesty that made your childishness, cowardice, and fraudulence sting. A part of me ached at the thought of my words hurting you. Should you ever happen to read my work and care what I think of you. Should you ever happen to think of me at all. It is too much to contemplate. For I am, and will always be, so sad that you’re gone.
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Jennifer Wortman is the author of This. This. This. Is. Love. Love. Love., a story collection forthcoming from Split Lip Press in May of 2019. Her fiction, essays, and poetry appear in Glimmer Train, Normal School, DIAGRAM, The Collagist, SmokeLong Quarterly, Massachusetts Review, Hobart, North American Review, Confrontation, Juked, and elsewhere. She lives with her family in Colorado, where she teaches at Lighthouse Writers Workshop and serves as associate fiction editor for Colorado Review.
Artwork by Dev Murphy
24 comments
Hege A. J. Lepri says:
Jan 15, 2019
Absolutely love how you turn writing conventions on their head here.
Jenny Wortman says:
Feb 7, 2019
Thank you, Hege!
Shelda says:
Jan 16, 2019
I love this!
Jenny Wortman says:
Feb 7, 2019
Thank you, Shelda!
kailee says:
Feb 6, 2019
hi! i’m a high school student and read this essay short as part of an in class assignment and just love how open and honest and truly on target this essay is. it’s a topic and idea that many people that have been hurt by others can relate to and be validated by. great job finding the words i could never seem to. this piece is awesome!! great work!
Jenny Wortman says:
Feb 7, 2019
Kailee, thank you so much for your comments! I worked hard to be honest in this essay, and it feels really good to hear that it is relatable and validating for you. Finding the right words is always hard, but your words are great, and make me smile.
Jacob Koplik says:
Feb 6, 2019
I’m a Junior at Bethlehem Central High School. I found this story to be very creative since it’s a story about writing and hard feelings, and not a story about what you would be likely to infer it’s about by reading the title. I can relate to this story because I often can’t decide what to do when I am mad at someone to stop the tension between me and them. I like how in the end the decision was not to write the essay about negative qualities due to the realization that it would not be helpful to settle things, and instead write it about positive qualities.
Jenny Wortman says:
Feb 7, 2019
Jacob, thank you so much for reading and commenting on my essay! I love what you say about it being a story about writing and hard feelings, and not being able to decide what to do about those feelings. And I’m so glad that you like the ending! Maybe when you feel mad about someone and don’t know what to do, you can write about it like I did and see what you discover. In any case, I’m thrilled to hear your great insights. Thanks again!
Graham Robert Scott says:
Feb 7, 2019
This is brilliant. Rewarding over multiple reads.
Jenny Wortman says:
Feb 8, 2019
Thank you, Graham!
Nikolay says:
Feb 8, 2019
Hi Im a in high school and I have to say that i am very impressed by this piece. By saying the message indirectly your actually telling the readers the meaning behind the title. I think only some people would understand and i have my own interpretation. He thinks he’s a child and coward and a fraud but also thinks others are too but when writing about it he felt insecure and decided to write about the essay. He shared it to his therapist and and the therapist liked it but the kid still didn’t feel like he should publish the original. We are children because some of use cant let things go or just don’t want to take responsibility.We are cowards because some of us don’t do that and let things die and some of us are frauds because there are teens that pretend to be depressed or in the same situation as other kids. This story doesn’t explain the title but by doing that in the story it does explain the story and only some people would actually understand it and not be offended by it or confused.
Jenny Wortman says:
Feb 10, 2019
Hi, Nikolay! Thank you so much for reading and commenting on my essay. I really like your thoughts about how the message comes through indirectly. It’s funny because, in a way, the language is very direct, but there are also contradictions and a lot left unsaid. One thing I love about writing short pieces is it leaves a lot open to interpretation. I admire the way you dug into this piece to figure out what it means to you. And I especially appreciate what you say here: “We are children because some of us can’t let things go or just don’t want to take responsibility.” I agree! Sometimes it’s hard to behave like a grown-up.
Fleming Meeks says:
Feb 9, 2019
I love this! I love that the resolution is not a resolution at all, but just a pause before the essay begins again.
Jenny Wortman says:
Feb 10, 2019
Thank you, Fleming!
Lois says:
Feb 11, 2019
Wonderfully and poignantly expressed dualism!
Jenny Wortman says:
Feb 13, 2019
Thank you, Lois!
Morgen says:
Feb 13, 2019
This really hit me hard. The entire last paragraph is a punch in the gut. Your line, “Indeed, it was my love of your maturity, bravery, and honesty that made your childishness, cowardice, and fraudulence sting.” Oh, man. That is heavy and beautiful and so full of emotion. I applaud your work.
Jenny Wortman says:
Feb 15, 2019
Oh, thank you, Morgen. Your words mean a lot.
Mary A Gustafson says:
Mar 24, 2019
well done.Thank you. so simple, yet evocative of so many emotions and ideas.
Jennifer Wortman says:
Mar 26, 2019
Thank you, Mary!
Nathan Wellman says:
Apr 5, 2019
Love love love the compassionate turn this take, and how the willingness to go there only makes the piece that much more painful.
Jennifer Wortman says:
Apr 11, 2019
Thank you, Nathan!
Andria says:
Aug 25, 2019
I could not have come across this at a better time. If I were the sort of person to believe in fate, I would say it were so, but I think it’s all the more precious for its lucky coincidence. I have recently been thinking of a person who caused me a great deal of pain through their childishness, cowardice, and fraudulence. I have been considering writing a letter to this person. I still might. I’ve been contemplating writing the world’s longest letter because that’s what it would take to get it all out. But this piece has put into words what I couldn’t quite figure out–or rather, was too afraid to delve into my emotions to figure out. I could have done it if I weren’t, well, a coward. The bit about maturity, bravery, and honesty and the way it feels to want to pull out a thorn but being unsure if it’s going to stop the pain or bleed you dry.
This is a gorgeous piece. This one will stay with me.
Jennifer Wortman says:
Jan 8, 2020
Thank you for these words, Andria. I’m glad this piece found you.